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Cake day: October 25th, 2023

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  • So, all I have is your bias story to go on, (sorry but there’s no objectivity to pull from a one sided story) but if you’re right, it sounds like this “friend” has something resembling a narcicistic personality disorder or something like it. If that’s true, it’s something to worry about. People with a condition like this tend to lure you in with kindness, force you to do stuff for them with the so called “kindness” as leverage, but at the same time destroying you by feeding negativity to you and the people around you about you, to maintain control over you by playing with you insecurities. And with “you”, I mean your sister in this case. Your sister will just be a pawn in their game to get status, attention, control, which will result in your sister getting hurt a lot and them moving on onto another victim.

    But there’s a chance this is all wrong, again, I’m basing it only on your story. I don’t know if you are seeing everything which is happening clearly. Cases like this are always very difficult.

    Maybe you can advice your sister not to get too dependent and attached on this “friend” and to be careful. And be there for her when it goes south. Don’t judge her, she’s a victim. Be supportive. Other than that, I doubt there’s anything you can do. It’s something which will have to play out as long as your sister isn’t ready to take her distance. It will be a hard life lesson, but a valuable one. Prep her with your insight, let her make the choice.

    That’s my advice.


  • I don’t agree. I agree with him trying to get your attention, but I think it’s because he doesn’t want your attention at the stuff he’s actually doing. Plastic straws? Rly? Better double check whatever else he’s doing. He’s constantly distracting everyone with some weird bs to hide his malpractice. No one cares about some simple executive orders when he’s threatening to invade Canada, everyone will write about some stupid placric straws instead of some boring stuff which actually is harmful AF.





  • There are agencies which help with expats finding a job and housing. Also schools for kids etc. I know it exists here in NL, but also in Norway, Germany and probably much more countries.

    There are many job offers for expats. Many companies are scouting. Again, through expat agencies you can get easier access to these job offers, but not exclusively.

    Why didn’t you say you’re a UK citizen? So you’re not a US citizen and you moved back to your country of origin? I can understand that, although I still would have checked other countries first since the current state of the UK isn’t that attractive right now.

    As a UK citizen I think it’s even easier to live in an EU country then a US citizen.


  • I didn’t know the UK was the only European country where people aren’t forced into conversion therapy. Also, I didn’t know the UK was the only country where an American can legally live. Should I be reporting all my American gay expat friends to the government now?

    You clearly didn’t do your research when moving to Europe, and clearly have no clue on how other European countries are. The UK is not the most gay friendly of all European countries and finding work as an American is easy in many EU countries and can even have some massive tax benifits (20% tax reduction in NL for example). Many EU countries have fluent English speakers and loads of jobs where only English is no issue. While in the UK it’s going pretty fucked up since they left the EU. But at least their food can be of as poor quality as US food, so aclimating might be easier. Just be careful when getting sick, free healthcare could be a massive culture shock.