Safe from what?

Safe from making someone uncomfortable?

And who says it’s important?

According to folks over at my previous posts. (Though they also emphasised communication)

I think, I’m somewhere in the middle of all that. I’m fine with flirting, I’m more or less indifferent about it (I like it if she responds well to it). But if it wasn’t as important as people say it is, I don’t think I would do it, just to be safe.

But I’m not in a relationship?

Thank you! That was very thorough and clear.

Of course you still need to find a way to show interest

Do you have any tips on how to do that?

Damn, that’s without a doubt a perfect synopsis of what’s going on here. Seriously, I’m impressed.

“What difference would the answer make?”

If the answer is: “Yes, it’s very important.” Then I know what to improve. If the answer is something along the lines of: “The important part is the connection between the two parties.” Then I don’t know what to do, to be honest.

Romantic/sexual banter.

I get the whole “Just the be yourself” message. But right now things just aren’t moving. Like, at all. And I do have plenty of hobbies. Even meeting women is genuinely not a problem for me. So I’m kind of stuck between the being myself and changing strategies. To be honest with you. If being myself means I don’t ever find someone, which over the years have quite clearly proven to be the case. Then I say: “Fuck being myself.”

I don’t know why everyone else here says “No.” Maybe it’s down to preference.

Well, at least it makes the discussion more interesting.😅

And I usually don’t have any ulterior motives.

Well I for one usually do have said ulterior motives (I want to see them romantically). Shouldn’t I then be a bit more (flirtatiously) direct with them?

I just searched for ‘flirting’

“Hey, I really enjoyed that conversation, let’s meet for a coffee some day, how can I text you?”

But if I sign it off like this. That would MAKE the message pretty clear, right?

If you say “Hey, I really enjoyed that conversation, let’s meet for a coffee some day, how can I text you?”

When given chance, this is basically the way I go about it. Just a quick on-the-side question: How quickly do you usually suggest something like that?

And bordering on what I’d call flirting.

What would you call flirting?

I am not a great active flirter, but I do know that my words and body language will do the heavy lifting, unconsciously.

Perhaps you’re in the same boat?

I would say, yes. However, it has been somewhat of a fruitless endeavour for me. (rightly or wrongly so)

But how are they supposed to find out if it’s just a nice conversation, or if I want to meet them again, or if I want to go on a date with them?

If I’m having a friendly chat with someone and I suggest we meet again in a different setting, wouldn’t that be a clear enough sign?

Flirting is part of the process

Okay and how big (would you say) is that part?

It’s also a pretty broad term.

Would you say that talking amicably, counts as flirting?